Holker is presently selling her upcoming memoir, This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Mild, during which, per her writer, she “reveals how she has navigated the emotional and monetary aftermath of Stephen’s alternative, guided their three youngsters of their grief whereas managing the outpouring from a well-meaning public, and reopened herself to the following chapter in her skilled and private life.” 

After sharing the video above from her cowl story with PEOPLE journal on Tuesday to her personal Instagram web page, considered one of her followers commented, “This entire factor made me unhappy. He is gone. Why tear aside this identify? I used to be absolutely supportive about you shifting in and being glad however this@paycheck was not price disgracing his identify.”

Holker responded to the remark, writing, “I will all the time love you. Simply making an attempt to assist folks really feel secure to ask for assist and assist.”

The fan adopted up, saying, “I think about it may possibly’t be straightforward going by what you have been by. There will probably be loads of hate thrown your approach nevertheless it’s not for me to evaluate splice a troublesome scenario”; they then apologized for “leaping to conclusions.”

Holker additionally re-shared a put up from one other fan defending her from backlash.

“The truth that individuals are tearing [Holker] down, particularly those that had been speculated to be in her nook (former colleagues, buddies, a few of her late husbands household) when she has slowly began to work out the occasions of the final two years, and is hoping to share her story to HELP OTHERS is wild,” the fan wrote.

“She is allowed to share what she’s gone thought, and do it in order that she will be clear and assist others within the course of,” they continued. “Allison, I hope you recognize that despite the fact that there’s some emotional hate coming at you, that there are such a lot of extra that love you and your honesty and vulnerability.”

Within the video, Holker inspired others to hunt assist whereas coping with trauma.

“I’ve had some main lows as I am making an attempt to determine this out and navigate this myself and I am very scared to ask for assist. And I am studying how a lot power it truly reveals once you determine to face up for your self and ask for assist, and at last lean on somebody,” she defined.

“I do know for me, for the final two years, I felt like I needed to get my youngsters by all the things. I needed to get my household by all the things. And I needed to get all my buddies and all of the followers and all these those that cherished our household a lot, I needed to verify I may carry them and get them by it,” she continued. “After which I noticed, effectively, wait, I have not taken a second to additionally heal myself. And so it is like I am studying that what he skilled, I need to be an instance of now and present different folks they will do it.”

Although not talked about within the video above, Holker has been making headlines for different feedback she made in her wide-ranging interview with the publication, particularly for describing the second she allegedly discovered a stash of medicine hidden of their closet whereas choosing an outfit for her husband’s funeral following his demise.

The professional dancer mentioned she discovered a “cornucopia” of medicine — together with mushrooms, capsules and “different substances I needed to search for on my cellphone” — hidden inside his shoeboxes.

“It was a very triggering second for me as a result of there have been loads of issues I found in our closet that I didn’t know existed. It was very alarming to me to study that there was a lot taking place that I had no clue [about],” she continued. “It was a very scary second in my life to determine that out, nevertheless it additionally helped me course of that he was going by a lot and he was hiding a lot, and there should have been loads of disgrace in that.”

Talking extra usually, she informed PEOPLE, “It actually hurts me that Stephen held all the things in for so long as he did. He was all the time so sturdy for everybody.”

“It is essential for me to share the reality to make issues simpler for another person,” she additionally informed the outlet. “I would like somebody that perhaps is battling their very own psychological well being and having questions of in the event that they need to take themselves to the opposite aspect — do not do it as a result of you are going to have an effect on far more folks than you ever knew. In the event you simply ask for assist, somebody may aid you discover the sunshine once more.”

Of Boss, she added, “I want he would’ve felt comfy asking for assist, needed to go to remedy and discuss to his buddies or family members.”

This Far: My Story of Love, Loss, and Embracing the Mild comes out Feb. 4 from Harper Choose and is offered for preorder now, wherever books are offered.

In the event you or somebody you recognize is battling despair or has had ideas of harming themselves or taking their very own life, get assist. The Nationwide Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) offers 24/7, free, confidential assist for folks in misery.